Is it too dangerous for the elderly to live at home?

Lisa Biasi: Posted on Wednesday, February 06, 2013 9:22 AM

Children of elderly parents face tough choices. One of the hardest things that a child will ever do is determine whether or not their parent should live alone. As children we find that it is devastating to watch the people who cared for us become unable to perform their day to day care alone. The once strong hands tremble, the same hands that held us steady while we learned to walk, ride a bike, or swing.
As upsetting as it may be to watch a parent become unsteady, it is even more heartbreaking to receive a phone call from authorities or a local hospital that a loved one has been admitted to an emergency room for an injury. Especially, an injury that could have been prevented by having an in-home caregiver. Home care is always preferable to assisted living or a nursing home.
When thinking about an assistance choice, answer these questions:

Has your parent or loved one become confused lately? Do they repeat the same questions or tell the same things to you repeatedly?

Are bills behind? If memory loss is a problem, bills can be left unpaid which will result in loss of utilities or even loss of the home.

Do you notice mood swings in your loved one?

Have your parent(s) been forgetting to go to appointments?

Do you notice bruises? Does your parent seem to bump into objects that they would normally avoid?

Do stairs and chairs seem to give your loved one a problem to get out of or up from?

Normally clean homes are increasingly unclean.

You may notice that your parent’s hygiene is not the same as before, even a few weeks before starting this assessment. It may be hard for them to get in and out of a shower or tub.

Any or all of these things combined can point to a need for in-home care. Approaching your elderly parents about setting up in-home health care can be stressful on both you and them. Bring up your concerns, address the issues you have noticed, and explain that you are only concerned for their well being. When discussing home health care as an option, be sure to point out that your parent will be able to remain at home. Your parent will also be in control of who goes where in their home, will participate in a care plan development, and will be able to remain home as long as possible by choosing home health care.


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When is the best time to purchase a medical alert device?

Lisa Biasi, President: posted  on Saturday June 22, 2013 10:30 AM

The best time to take precautions is when your loved one is at their best, so they can continue to remain at their best. The fact remains that 65 percent of seniors fall within their own homes.  Most seniors will not realize that they need a medical alert system until they are lying on their floor in agony, at which point it is too late.  If you know an elderly individual living alone, investing in a medical alert system provides a safety net in the event something were to occur.
Given all the benefits associated with owning a medical alert system, it would seem only logical that the elderly and their caregivers would welcome the acquisition of such a life-changing system.  These medical alert systems are designed to provide peace of mind and improve the quality of life for your loved ones.  Medical alert systems ensure help is available 24/7 at the touch of a button.
Many times ,seniors delay purchasing a medical alert device.  Most seniors are living on a fixed budget and do not have the funds to spare on any added expenses.  However, medical alert systems are available for less than a dollar a day.  When comparing the costs of a medical alert system to the costs associated with a traumatic medical emergency, which could occur in the absence of a medical alert system, the cost pales in comparison.  Think of all the money your loved one could be saving by remaining independent within the confines of their own home.  Medical alert systems allow seniors to prolong their independence by keeping them safe and secure in their homes without having to relocate to an expensive assisted living facility.
Some elderly individuals have too much pride to invest in a medical alert system.  They don’t want to accept the fact that they are aging and want to maintain the standard of living they are used to.  These individuals are not necessarily resisting the need to purchase a medical alert system, but rather they are trying to resist the aging process in general and the changes that come with it.
Deciding to purchase a medical alert system is a big decision, but it should not be a difficult one. Purchasing a medical alert system will ensure peace of mind for you and your loved ones, while also lengthening your loved one’s independence,all for only a few dollars a month.

8 Ways to communicate effectively with your aging loved ones

Lisa Biasi, President: Posted on Thursday, April 18, 2013 11:08 PM

It can be difficult to realize that our parents or aging loved ones are not who they used to be. We are forced to change the way that we interact, communicate and respond.  While assuming a care taking role we must learn to convey a message that allows the senior to maintain their dignity and continue to do as much for themselves as is safe and possible.
Preservation of your aging parents’ perspective is a critical component of becoming a better communicator. When different from yours the challenge is to clarify what they want or intend and to help and advise without the appearance of taking control.
 Their self respect and feelings of independence are challenged daily as the capacity to perform activities of daily living diminishes. It is important to listen to what they are saying; reminding them that you are there to support them, not take over.
Some tips for effective communication with your parents or aging loved ones:
-First and foremost, BE PATIENT.  This change and transition that your parents or aging loved ones are going through is difficult on them and is a new challenge that they may be unable to face.  Even though this situation is difficult on you, imagine what the senior is going through.  Have patience with them.
-Use non verbal communication positively. The way we talk, listen, look, move and react tells the other person if we are listening, if we understand or if we are angry. Make eye contact; sit upright, use gestures or intonations to indicate understanding or concern. Remember that only a third of what we communicate is with words.
-Stay focused on the present and future. Resist the temptation to bring up things from the past.
-Listen carefully to what the other person is saying instead of thinking about what we are going to say next.
-Respond with empathy. Try to understand and relate to their feelings. Honestly acknowledge emotions, frustrations or challenges.
-Try to see the others point of view and validate their position instead of trying to shift them to yours. Through understanding you are able to gain trust and insight which can lead to shifting perspectives.
-Take a break. If tempers are flaring or frustration is mounting take time to collect your thoughts.
-Find common ground by exploring each person’s interests and needs to create a foundation for creative problem solving. Help your loved one brainstorm solutions so that they feel that they are in control.
-Avoid blame.  Try to understand that your parent or aging love one is not to blame for their illness.
-Try putting yourself in their shoes.  Try to be more understanding of what they are going through.  Think before speaking any unkind words and treat them as you would want to be treated if you were in the same situation yourself.
Difficult conversations are a necessary part of helping our aging parents. Taking the time to listen, explore options and balance the needs of each person involved leads to outcomes that address everyone’s concerns and abilities.


June 9, 2014  Press Release  Posted by Susan

12 Woodbury Businesses receive counties "Best OF" Awards

Woodbury, NJ  On May 29, 2014, Twelve Woodbury businesses were recognized as the "Best of Gloucester County" at the annual Shop-Dine Go Local Celebration sponsored by the Gloucester County Chamber of Commerce, the Gloucester County Board of Chosen Freeholders, TD Bank and South Jersey Times.

The 12 Woodbury businesses that were voted by their customers as the "Best of Gloucester County" include:

1. Woodbury Antique Center

2. Boggs Auto

3. Cipriani Remodeling

4. The Nut Shop

5. Dr Friedberg

6. Acme


8. Fat Louie

9. Despersia Medical

10. Bellia Printing

11. Marlenes Mangia

12. English Sewerage

During the months of April and May votes were cast  through the Chamber of Commerce, County Economical Development and S.J Times . All total 18,000 customers voted.